Losing Friends? Your Doing Something Right

It’s funny how much my 15-year old son loves hanging out with friends. As parents, I try not to rain on his parade and tell him the truth. As we age, our friends do not want us to succeed.

Don’t get me wrong; we should have 2-3 true friends. We may even have some family members that are an asset to our lives. But make no mistake about it, once you start to get your shit together, your friends want nothing to do with you.

I remember when I started blogging my way to financial independence. I thought my friends and family would be highly supportive. Nope. It’s almost the exact opposite. It is almost like a mirror they see telling them to get their act together. 

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It starts with reading. When I started reading powerful new ways of thought, my views on standard topics began to change. For example, many people do not know the difference between leverage and debt. Reading “Unfair Advantage” taught me to buy a home instead of a new car.

Now, when my friends buy new cars, boats, and motorcycles, I am unimpressed. So I guess it is me that has changed. However, I do not hold their buying habits against them—I could care less. And therein lies the rub.

They want to celebrate. The main thing that separates friends over time is your lack of enthusiasm for their choices. When they buy a brand new motorcycle, they want you to show excitement and interest. Meanwhile, you are hyper-focused on building a business and your next real estate venture. 

If you have kids, we praise them to show our love. Friends are similar in that sense; however, they are adults. When I see a 40-year old adult buying a new $60,000 car, either cash or with a loan, I cringe. There are so many more productive things we can do with that cash. 

They know how you feel about their choices. They may be in and out of relationships, visiting nightclubs and drinking, or unhappy most of the time. They may even complain about money yet refuse to use their free time to build a passive income stream. 

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Being an adult. When you start to take retirement seriously, at any age, you become an adult. When you begin to value making your family rich and focus on estate planning and succession planning, you become an adult. People don’t like adults. 

Your true friends. You are a composite of the five people with whom you spend the most time. Who do you want to be then? I recommend two books on upgrading your mindset that can help you figure out your direction.

“Mindset” is a book that focuses on the difference between growth and fixed mindsets. Most of your friends will have a fixed mindset. It will be tough for you to grow when you surround yourself with people who don’t believe in growth. 

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“Limitless” teaches us how to unlock our brains to improve the process of learning. If you follow what this book teaches, you will be light years ahead of your friends. And, they will know how far you have come. 

Build your own community. Once you start down your path, you will most likely have to build your community. That’s okay; there are many ways to build a community of like-minded individuals. 

I am a huge fan of blogging to attract like-minded folks or build a niche community. But you can start a Facebook group or YouTube channel. So many people want to succeed in life—why surround yourself with unhappy, tired, boring people?

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Many of your friends, especially as you become older, will always be busy. You need to focus on the business of your business. Do not fall into the trap of “fake” meetings and engagements. You need to become rich for your sake and the sake of your family. 

Conclusion. It sucks losing friends, but if you are reading this, you are on a different path. Your journey doesn’t involve watching sports, news, and Netflix. You are building streams of passive income, strong family ties, and building generational wealth.

We can travel down the path together. Leave me a comment on what you think about losing friends. Also, follow me on Twitter to see my new Freedom PDFs as they release. Thank you, and good luck on the path!

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